Welcome to my INTJ life

There are many people who fear missing out on things others do, but as an INTJ woman I find joy missing out and in this blog post I tell you why.

JOMO is a Joy of Missing out. Shortly said it is the feeling content with staying in and disconnecting as a form of selfcare.

This form of self-care is the most natural for me as an INTJ woman. I am more than happy to stay at home and read a book instead of going out.

This extends also in my hobbies whereas as a cellist I am expected to play in front of others either in orchestra or solo. But, the cello is for myself and my mental health, not for others so I am not bothered if I only play at home.

Find happiness in JOMO

As an introverted personalities we INTJs focus on things that bring happiness to ourselves and not to others. We are solitary by nature and do not care what others think of us.

In reality, we live more by doing less. There is no point on rushing ondoing everything as time can not be managed. It is we who need to change because of the time, not the other way around.

By doing less, you have more time to focus on things that truly matter to you. So, why should everyone enjoy missing out on things? Here are few thoughts for you to think about:

• Do you really want to do it or is it just a thing you saw someone else do?
• Does doing it bring you joy or to someone else?
• Do you want to do it to post about it on social media?
• Does it reduce your stress or increase it?

Calm is a superpower INTJs have

Time is the one thing we want most but use it in the worst possible ways. We tend to spend the most precious moments with people who does not even matter to us.

But, there are exceptions – the introverted people! We are selfish in the best way as we do not want to use our time doing things that are not relevant to us. Call it a superpower as it is rare in these days!

So, whenever the mystical Fear of Missing out raises its head (if it is possible for you) please remember to take time for yourself to find yourself again. It is perfectly ok to prioritise your own time on top of everything else.