If we dive deep into INTJ personality we find a few things that are important to INTJs: finding the truth, solving the problem and being left alone to figure out the world.
Disclaimer: These are my thoughts and feelings, and may not apply to all INTJ women in the world
Being left alone is a fear and a dream. I assume every INTJ in the world has shouted silently to be left alone even for a minute but it is a different thing to be lonely. Because of that, I put loneliness as the first thing of INTJs fears. It also reflects fear of loosing control of persons mind and being left alone with insanity.
The second fear is not solving the problem. If there are puzzles in this world, we need to figure them out. If it is not possible, we take it personally and tend to question ourselves. Maybe we were not smart enough to figure the puzzle, maybe there is something wrong in our minds?
The third fear is not finding the truth. It is quite similar with problem-solving but can also be a separate issue. For example political questions usually tend to be so hard to understand and truth so far buried that it is hard to say which is the right path to take. Not finding the truth can also be similar of being betrayed. I can’t think of any INTJ who would not fear veing betrayed as we do not get friends easily. Getting to know someone is a struggle and giving trust even more difficult.
Personally, my biggest fear is being seen as unknowledgeable. It comes from my childhood when I heard I am not smart enough to be enough for anyone but I think it also has a lot to do with being an INTJ woman. We do not want to be stupid, hence we do not talk if we are not sure we know what we are talking about. I personally hate the feeling I sometimes get that I can’t understand the way of the world because I am woman. That’s stupid in its own stupidity.
INTJs tend to seek the truth and logic behind all things and sometimes we fail. Those are epic moments and our secretive nature would hate to show that kind of thing to the world. Failure in all its forms is horrible.
If you are interested on reading more about what INTJs fear, there is an excellent post about this exact topic: 10 Things That Terrify INTJs – According to 300 INTJs — https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/05/04/10-things-that-terrify-intjs-according-to-300-intjs/
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